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Hello People!!!

What Do You Do

You smile though within your actually dying, you keep moving on when your heart you know cant go on, coz if you don’t do all this then what do you do?

A million hopes are relying on you, a hundred smiles smile for you, if not for you some people would not want to live, if not for you, your parents wouldn’t have sacrificed their desires, if not for you your father would come home early and rest rather than work overtime. If not for you your mother would not sit at home awaiting for you to return whether in school, whether in college, whether down to play or out on a an outing whether your working, how ever big you get it still wont make your mother sleep till your not tucked in bed. So if at times you feel your life is just not going anywhere, that you would rather die than face your problems, what do you do?

You love someone with all your life, yet you have to let that person go, you hurt that person though it’s tearing you apart within, but you know if you really want to see that person happy you have let go, you have to let them grow. Coz when you had to learn you learnt it the hard way too, so you realize that it’s your turn to pass the torch and stop being selfish. The essence of love is not being happy with the person you love, but making sure wherever you may be, that person you love is happy. That is love.

So in the end the thing to do is simple yet hard. Coz it’s the simple things in life that matter. So you have to smile no matter what and you have to keep moving on, for your parents who brought you here and did everything for you, without any fear. You have to live; you have work and become a person pf scruples and principles. Coz in the end it doesn’t matter what you have, but what you chose to do with that what you had. After a while you will realize that even when you thought you couldn't go on, you did and you feel glad you did. We don't regret the things we do as much as we regret that which we don’t do. So next time your heart asks you what to do, do just this, go to your parents hug them tight, and your heart will know you did it right.

Good Day People!!

Be Blessed!!!

Warm Regards,

Aarti Kapoor!!

Hello people!!!

I am posting this write-up that I wrote in 2005, back when I was in college. Writing has always been my only refuge. I decided to start maintaining my writings in the form of small write-ups in a journal or a diary. I wrote this piece (it was the first entry in my diary as well) when I was going through one of the worst phases of my life, in an unknown city. I had been friends with this girl ever since the first day of college. We clicked right away and then there was no looking back. Though we never said it, it was clear there is no room for a third person. So you can imagine the closeness. However it was short-lived owing to a number of reasons. So I did vent out my feelings though, to date I still feel the need for someone to just hear me out, and what could a better medium than the net. It’s a bit lengthy but I hope you guys enjoy reading it. Do leave your comments. Criticism is more welcome than praise as it will only help me grow in my writing.

Thanks.....

FRieND$ oF ouR LiVe$!!!

FRIENDSHIP, one of the most cherished of all relations. Two people from separate worlds, castes, backgrounds and not related by blood, easily understand each other. The love they share is far above every other relationship in the whole world. It could not get better than this. Imagine your friend & u so far apart from each other in perception, ideas, personality and mind frame are still closer than peas in a pod. I will be presenting ahead a small compilation on friends that I call “Friends of Our Lives”.

If ever the need arises, friends give their life for each other without any complaint or hesitation. Friends are mirrors, who are a reflection of the person that stays in us. It’s only with a friend that you can be yourself. However stupid you may sound about certain things your friend will always listen patiently. Even if you keep crying like a broken record, your friend will wipe your tears all the times you do. If at times you don’t feel like talking, your friend will sit by your site quietly but not leave you.

A Friend is God’s gift to Life. So you better handle your gifts with care. Unfortunately in most cases that I have seen, people realize what they have let go off only after losing their closest friend/friends. Well, it doesn’t mean that you’ll have to be sugary. Just be yourself. I mean everyone has their own share of arguments and quarrels. It’s a natural phenomenon and a healthy one at that. Where there is love, there is room for some problems and misunderstandings as well. Moreover the world we live in gets shallower day by day.

The trust two people share play a major role in changing and breaking friendships. However, it even depends on how credible your friend thinks you are. If your closest friend is filled in by a third party (irrespective of whether the source is credible or not) that you have snitched about that friend secretively. Your friend has two options, though being your closet pal that stage shouldn’t otherwise arise. However if your friend doesn’t believe then it will only make your bond a 100 times stronger. But if your friend chooses to believe, BAAM!! It’s the beginning of your end with your friend. When doubt seeps in your friends mind regarding you, it only means trouble, more trouble & even more trouble.

I will explain it in a simpler way. A sky scraper 105 stories strong is only cement mixed with water with out its foundation. If the foundation happens to deteriorate the 105 story building would crumble into a pile of fine dust. In the same way trust is the foundation of friendship. Doubt is the first step towards distrust. Hence if the foundation gets weak and shaken the relation will just shatter to pieces. Trust is what holds the relation and pulls it together.

If your friends can believe others over you then your friend never deserved you to begin with. You should be thankful to those that save you from such toxic friends. Even if you were to give your friend benefit of doubt, anyone genuine enough who would really give importance to your friendship will always approach you and will want to hear the truth from the horse’s mouth itself. If ever you have come across such a friend or if god forbid you ever happen to please do remember that reality is not what we perceive it to be, but, unfortunately reality is bitter & most of us don’t genuinely realize it. We live in a world of illusions, where everything is based on hope, where faith can move mountains, where god sees all and knows all and bad times are followed by good times. Beware of friends, who are all talk and no show, they are the ones to be wary of…

GOOD TIME CHARLIE!

If the previous type of friends disheartened you then you better get your act together before venturing ahead...

The worst kind of betrayal or usually given by friends who are closest. But, this is My Personal Opinion. The best way to find out who your real friends are is during the time of a crisis. It’s an old saying, “When a ship is sinking, the 1st one to leave is the rat”. Its really heartening to find out that if god forbid you were to be stuck in a life & death situation, with minimum chances of survival, & at that point, your best friend, childhood chum, buddy, pal whatever you may call them were to leave you in the middle of nowhere and then without looking back even once, would walk away forever, what would be your plight?

Well I’ll tell you from experience. You won’t mind dying physically when you you’ve already died from within. That’s exactly how I felt. I hope it doesn’t ever happen to anyone. Please be wise in choosing your friends and even wiser in selecting whom to trust. I hope this article has served some purpose for at least one person.

Good Day People!!!!

Be Blessed!!

Warm Regards,

Aarti!!

Hello People!!!

Ever since I can remember I have been passionate about poetry and Urdu poetry has always topped the list. It’s simple yet subtle. The reason being the softness of this beautiful language. Many of you may never even have heard of Urdu Poetry before, and even fewer of you may actually understand its nuances and meaning is. This article is a humble attempt to give you some basic knowledge about Urdu Poetry. This write up is a humble attempt to give those of you, who are interested, some basic knowledge about Urdu Poetry.

A Bit about Urdu Poetry & Poets

Many of you may never have heard of Urdu Poetry before, and even fewer of you may know what Urdu Poetry actually is. This article is a humble attempt to give you some basic knowledge about Urdu Poetry. An appropriate place to start at would be the Urdu language. Urdu is an Indo-Aryan language that is spoken by an estimated 250 million people in India, Pakistan and neighboring South Asian countries. Urdu is the official language of Pakistan and is the major language in some Indian states. But the language is not confined to the sub-Indian continent; Britain has one of the biggest Urdu communities in the world today.

The Urdu language emerged in the 13th century in North India as a mixture of the Hindi language, other local languages, and the Persian language that was brought to the area by merchants and military men. Many Arabic and Turkish words have also been incorporated into Urdu. Its colorful mix of elements from many languages is the main reason for its highly poetic nature. Urdu Poetry traditions are deeply rooted in time, but like with many other types of poetry, a firm starting point simply cannot be established. Some of the major literary influences for later Urdu Poetry can be traced as far back as Kabir (1440-1518) and Amir Khusro (1253-1325 AD).

Urdu Poetry is a melodic and elegant type of poetry whose major themes include human feelings, nature’s beauty, and the passion for love. A majority of Urdu Poetry is written in Nasta`liq calligraphy, a beautiful Person-Arabic script. Since Urdu Poetry is very popular in India, where there are many people who can understand Urdu but are unable to read the Nasta`liq script, many of the poems have been translated into the Devanagari script that is used by Hindi speakers. With the advent of globalization, there are even some Urdu poems that have been written in Roman Urdu. Roman Urdu is simply the Urdu language written using the Roman alphabet.

Poets of Urdu Poetry use a pen name which is called a takhallus. The takhallus will normally become a part of a poet’s real name and is added at the end of it. In Urdu Poetry, the takhallus is incorporated into the last couplet of the poem to act as a sort of signature. Mushairas, or Urdu Poetry recitals, are entertaining events where poets perform their works.

The Mushaira is a deeply-loved and cherished part of the Pakistani and North Indian cultures. At a typical Mushaira, several invited guest poets will sit along a long table at the front of the room, just like you would expect with a panel of judges. There is one host who will invite each poet to perform his work. The audience participates by calling out "va" at the end of important couplets. An Urdu Poem is essentially composed of couplets, or pairs of versed lines that rhyme and have similar meters. One couplet is called a "Sher" and many couplets are called "Ashaar". Although Urdu Poetry is characterized by several basic ingredients, there are many different forms of Urdu poems.

(Courtesy: http://www.amazines.com)

Good Day People!!

Be Blessed!!!

Warm Regards,

Aarti Kapoor!!

Since this is my first post I want to make the best possible use of it so I am dedicating it to those who are suffering from some or the other kind of addiction. I want to throw light on hazards and side effects of these life taking menaces to those who have no intention of giving it up and extend support, encouragement and motivation with others who are trying to stop using drugs, prescription drugs, alcohol, tobacco or other addictive substances. I will discuss the symptoms of addiction, addiction recovery, and ways to quit like tapering and cold turkey, and withdrawal symptoms.

I have gone through this traumatic journey myself and the part that haunts me till date is that I wasn't the only one suffering. But all along with me I tortured my family my friends, and all those who loved me dearly and couldn't bear to see, what I wasn't able to, me throwing my precious life away. However, I feel blessed because today I am sitting right here, I have been clean for over seven months (the longest I have ever been), I am at the peak of my professional life, my parents and sisters trust me again and my friends are smiling. My people never gave up on me. They believed in me inspire of all the horrible things I did and said.

The only good that came out of those wretched things was that I learned who my "real" friends were. The people who I thought would have kicked harder when I would be down where the only hands that came to my rescue, when it was dark and I couldn't find any familiar faces. So here I am trying my best to see if in anyway I can repay my dear lord for his grace and kindness that he bestowed upon me and make difference in at least one person's life.

Addiction - Either You Kill it Or It Kills You!!!

People abuse substances such as drugs, alcohol, and tobacco for varied and complicated reasons, but it is clear that our society pays a significant cost. The toll for this abuse can be seen in our hospitals and emergency departments through direct damage to health by substance abuse and its link to physical trauma. Jails and prisons tally daily the strong connection between crime and drug dependence and abuse. Although use of some drugs such as cocaine has declined, use of other drugs such as heroin and "club drugs" has increased. Finding effective treatment for and prevention of substance abuse has been difficult. Through research, we now have a better understanding of the behavior. Studies have made it clear that drug education and prevention aimed at children and adolescents offers the best chance to curb abuse nationally. Many substances can bring on withdrawal—an effect caused by cessation or reduction in the amount of the substance used. Withdrawal can range from mild anxiety to seizures and hallucinations. Drug overdose may also cause death. Nearly all these drugs also can produce a phenomenon known as tolerance where you must use a larger amount of the drug to produce the same level of intoxication.

Tobacco: People cite many reasons for using tobacco, including pleasure, improved performance and vigilance, relief of depression, curbing hunger, and weight control. The primary addicting substance in cigarettes is nicotine. But cigarette smoke contains thousands of other chemicals that also damage health. Hazards include heart disease, lung cancer and emphysema, peptic ulcer disease, and stroke. Withdrawal symptoms of smoking include anxiety, hunger, sleep disturbances, and depression. Smoking is responsible for nearly a half million deaths each year. Tobacco use costs the nation an estimated $100 billion a year, mainly in direct and indirect health care costs. Although many people have a drink as a "pick me up," alcohol actually depresses the brain.

Alcohol lessens your inhibitions, slurs speech, and decreases muscle control and coordination, and may lead to alcoholism. Withdrawal from alcohol can cause anxiety, irregular heartbeat, tremor, seizures, and hallucinations. In its severest form, withdrawal combined with malnutrition can lead to a life-threatening condition called delirium tremens (DTs). Alcohol is the most common cause of liver failure in the US. The drug can cause heart enlargement and cancer of the esophagus, pancreas, and stomach. In addition to its direct health effects, officials associate alcohol abuse with nearly half of all fatal motor vehicle accidents. In 1992, the total economic cost of alcohol abuse was estimated at $150 billion. Marijuana (also known as grass, pot, weed, and herb): Marijuana, which comes from the plant Cannabis saliva, is the most commonly used illegal drug in the United States. The plant produces delta-9-tetrahydrocannabinol (THC), the active ingredient associated with intoxication.

Marijuana resin, called hashish, contains an even higher concentration of THC. The drug is usually smoked, but it can also be eaten. Its smoke irritates your lungs more and contains more cancer-causing chemicals than tobacco smoke. Common effects of marijuana use include pleasure, relaxation, and impaired coordination and memory. Derived from the coca plant of South America, cocaine can be smoked, injected, snorted, or swallowed. The intensity and duration of the drug's effects depend on how you take it. Desired effects include pleasure and increased alertness. Overdose may result in death from decreased breathing. Because heroin is usually injected, often with dirty needles, use of the drug can trigger other health complications including destruction of your heart valves, HIV/AIDS, infections, tetanus, and botulism.

Causes

Use and abuse of substances such as cigarettes, alcohol, and illegal drugs may begin in childhood or the teen years. Certain risk factors may increase someone's likelihood to abuse substances. Factors within a family that influence a child's early development have been shown to be related to increased risk of drug abuse:

• Inappropriately aggressive or shy behavior in the classroom
• Poor social coping skills
• Poor school performance
• Association with a deviant peer group
• Perception of approval of drug use behavior

Symptoms

Friends and family may be among the first to recognize the signs of substance abuse. Early recognition increases chances for successful treatment. Signs to watch for include the following:

• Giving up past activities such as sports, homework, or hanging out with new friends
• Declining grades
• Aggressiveness and irritability
• Forgetfulness
• Disappearing money or valuables
• Feeling rundown, hopeless, depressed, or even suicidal
• Sounding selfish and not caring about others
• Use of room deodorizers and incense
• Paraphernalia such as baggies, small boxes, pipes, and rolling paper
• Getting drunk or high on drugs on a regular basis
• Lying, particularly about how much alcohol or other drugs he or she is using
• Avoiding friends or family in order to get drunk or high
• Planning drinking in advance, hiding alcohol, drinking or using other drugs alone
• Having to drink more to get the same high
• Believing that in order to have fun you need to drink or use other drugs
• Frequent hangovers Pressuring others to drink or use other drugs
• Taking risks, including sexual risks
• Having "blackouts"—forgetting what he or she did the night before
• Constantly talking about drinking or using other drugs
• Getting in trouble with the law
• Drinking and driving
• Suspension from school or work for an alcohol or drug-related incident
  
  Once again I urge all of you to please consider your life over and above anything. Sometimes we want to stop we know we need help yet we feel afraid to talk thinking what the other person may feel. Trust me, if the other person loves you truly, he or she would be more than happy to help you and if they condemn you, then they were never yours to begin with and they don’t deserve you. Please feel free to mail me on kapur9@yahoo.com for more information or if you just want to talk. Family and Friends if you’ll have the slightest doubt that your dear one may be an addict confront him/her before it’s too late.

(Article courtesy: http://www.emedicinehealth.com/)

Be Blessed!!!

Warm Regards,

Aarti Kapoor!!